20181023 📧 RLC “Follow Up” 2
Me @1614 to Don and Shane
When should I expect to hear back from you about what you wanna do in terms of amplification and promotion?
Don @1749 to me, shane
RLC will not be able to publish or collaborate with you without engaging in the critical gospel work of relationship building. Glad to talk with you further if this is a subject you agree to address, but until the respect we have always shown you is extended from you to our staff, and recognizing there has been a pattern of disrespect and disappointment we are not able to collaborate within RLC. We cannot separate people's feelings and morale to the overall mission of RLC. We are more of a community than a platform. I’m open and available to you should you want to invest in this relational work.
With respect,
Me @1824 to Don, Shane
This is the first I’ve heard of this. I’ll have to talk to Shane before getting back to you.
Me @2144 to Don, Shane
I realize this is just putting Shane in a triangle, so I'll just reply to you both at once, hopefully take out the problem of a middleman.
Shane; you told me in a text message that you would be home today and that you were "glad to talk" in whatever way was best for me. I texted you and called this afternoon, but you were not reachable. I'll have to assume this is not something we are dealing with as friends, if we are that, so I'll keep it all above board.
Don; It's totally understandable that you (and/or other unnamed RLC staff) have felt disrespected; it is the same way I told you that I felt, last Wednesday (Oct.17th @ 10:52a), so of course I can sympathize. What I don't understand is what it is that I have done to make others feel this way. I made sure to give you specific examples of how I felt disrespected, because I know it is important to relationships to be respected and to value the gift of one another' time and presence. I know you have specific examples in mind, and I hope you will share them.
To remind you where we are in the story, when I have felt disrespected by you and/or RLC, I brought the incidents to your attention on multiple occasions (for example, see the emails I sent you from May 30th @ 10:45a, June 1st @ 8:30a and 7:40p, and June 2nd @11p). While I am happy to hear from you the ways I have disrespected you or others, it is hard to justify doing so if the grievances I have already brought to your attention are going to be ignored or minimized. However, to be clear, I was raised to always take the moral high road and I also have been trained by the military to ignore my own pain, so I am willing to hear your specific grievances in this case. I'm looking forward to hearing your side of the story, or the story others have asked you to relay to me.
Finally, I am heartened by your courageous and strident defense of (your?) platform against those who treat fellow Christians with dismissive and disrespectful tones, and I am excited to hear about any progress you've made in talking with Jonathan W-H about reconciliation. It was such a blessing to hear that you feel so strongly about Matthew 18, it sometimes feels like I'm the only one! I'll be sending a separate email in the morning that I'd drafted but not finished. It's related, but not dependent upon, the concerns you raise here Don.
